How to be Good at Sex with Me:

Every workshop is unique and is designed for the needs and preferences of the participants.

Additionally, while I do begin each workshop with a map of where I think we might go, the participants of each workshop co-create its unfolding.

Possible activities may include:

• communication and intimacy exercises

• journaling prompts

• touch, cuddle, and massage exercises

• somatic practices such as yoga or dance

• mindfulness practices, meditation, or ritual

• body image exercises

• partnered and group sharing, listening, and reflection

• creative expression such as singing, chant, music, dance, poetry, and/or visual art

We start slowly, build organically, accommodate the shifting needs of the group, and we don’t leave anyone behind (while encouraging diverse forms of participation).

Every group is different.

In creating each workshop, I collaborate with one or more community partners, who co-develop the workshop intentions and share the needs and challenges of their specific community, as well as advertise the event throughout their sphere and support me in vetting appropriate registrants.

Some groups are filled with folks from kink, sex-positive, body-positive, and/or LGBTQ+ communities who have significant pre-established comfort with nudity and touch within collective containers.

Some groups are filled with folks who may never have been to a workshop like this before, who may have never spoken about their body or sexuality in a group before, and who may have found this workshop through their holistic wellness, spirituality, or self-development community.

Which is to say, each workshop has a unique starting point, as well as a unique and even less predictable endpoint.

I work hard to ensure that participants have clear expectations before the event, that groups are well-matched, and that each workshop is composed of people who are psycho-emotionally ready for the experience.

Additionally, these workshops are consent-based and thus center, both in intention and in format, the practice of tuning in to one’s self and building awareness and communication capacity around one’s needs and desires.

If you’d like to attend but aren’t certain you’d feel comfortable, contact me and we can explore developing a program specifically for your community.

Great question!

You will not be required to do anything you don’t want to do. Period.

In fact, the whole point of the workshop is to develop self-awareness around your needs, desires, preferences, and boundaries, and to communicate those to others in a skillful and compassionate way.

We will work with whatever comes up around this: challenges saying no, challenges asking for what you want, shame, guilt, or other challenging emotions or responses.

The community partner is typically an event organizer, leader, or social hub who can speak to the culture of their community and identify individuals who are known to them and trusted to show up well.

Additionally, each workshop is marketed mindfully — sometimes through closed community networks.

Longer workshops may require an application, interview, or references.

The community partner plays an invaluable role by communicating the desires, challenges, and access needs of their specific community, supporting a healthy and transparent vetting process, and guiding curriculum development.

Sometimes the community partner provides event space and co-facilitates part or all of the workshop, but this isn’t required.

Often, people hear of the workshop through a community of which they are a part.

This community might be related to LGBTQ+, radical faerie, kink/fetish, polyamorous/consensual non-monogamy, sacred sexuality, nudist/naturist, spirituality, holistic health, wellness, personal development, gender-based or social/collective movements.

Some workshops are restricted to those of particular identity or life experience, while others are open to all vetted adults who commit to showing up in a good way.

I’m happy to travel and am currently exploring workshop possibilities in Portland, OR, NYC, and England.

Please don’t hesitate to reach out to co-create something.

Pricing varies greatly depending on workshop length and travel expenses.

Sliding scale pricing is available for marginalized communities with limited economic access.

I often facilitate How to Be Good at Sex with Me as a 2, 3, or 4 hour workshop, either standalone or within the context of a larger event.

However, a 1 hour mini version can also be offered within the context of a larger event.

Full day and full weekend workshops are also available.

Longer workshops go deeper as skills, trust, and safety are built up over shared experiences.